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To Err is Human

The post-divorce period is not the best time for a moral lecture. However, one has to draw the line somewhere, and realize that their spouse is not a villain on the lines of the larger than life characters we come across in literature or films. Unless one has been unfortunate enough to have married an abusive man or woman, there are very few people who can squarely point at their ex and declare him or her to be the scum of the earth. Avenging ourselves is part of our psyche, especially when we know that facing all the facts with clarity and insight may not be so savoury. It is especially hard to forgive a spouse if the breakup involved an extramarital affair. Stalking, trailing the spouse, trying to blackmail or spying with the help of the children are all old methods in this battle royal, and now the internet has made it even more convenient to create trouble for your worse half. The blog spots on the net reveal deep-seated resentments, bordering on shocking violence, and it is irrespective of sex. In this terrible game, the greatest losers are the children. They are often referred to in terms similar to property, and the whole thrust is on who owns the rights, than what the child might be feeling. The next losers are the fighters themselves. A long-drawn dispute costs a lot of time and money. The money may still be recovered, but the time is permanently lost. There are couples who have been fighting over ex lovers, present partners, a house in the country, their bike, car insurance, and gifts given to each other. All of them are real people, and are signing in from the UK into the world of the internet, perhaps, even at this very moment. There is a remarkable couple who are fighting over their speed bike. As of now, on the advice of fellow bloggers, they are taking turns with it, and strangely enough, seem less virulent. One wonders what would happen when the bike would need servicing!